Jul
27
2015

EVER OURS IS SIX…

a lot can change in one year.

through sweat and tears, i’ve managed to still keep this blog going, 100% due to all these truly talented wedding photographers and friends who constantly send me features.  i’ve also moved into a new full time day job at a new smaller, much smaller, company.  all my days are spent helping find new talent to work at the company and it consists of a lot of emails, scheduling, logistics, phone calls, meetings, etc.  because it is a smaller company, there is no way to hide- any lack of effort on your part, you will be exposed.  and let me tell you guys, i absolutely am in love with that challenge.  i’ve thrown myself into this job the past few months and maybe got slightly exhausted, but the hunger and drive to do really well keeps me going.  for those who are familiar with my blog and me, you know that i live for that stuff.  for the past six years, i’ve somehow managed to sneak this blog in amongst a full-time day job, working front desk at a workout studio, trying to deal with the needs of family and hoping to keep friendships alive- with only a slight, almost noticeable loss of sanity.   this blog has been purely a labor of love.  i’ve never really believed in sponsorships or ads because i know i could never guarantee inquiries or bookings.  therefore, always felt grimy about the idea of moving towards that direction.  i have adored every minute of this and what i have been able to create and showcase here.  it’s been an honor to feature so much talent.

but…

again, a lot can change in one year.

it’s super hard for me to write this so i hope you all understand this was not an easy decision and respect my thoughts. and so here it is…

EVER OURS IS GOING ON AN INDEFINITE HIATUS (at the end of this year)

there were a multitude of factors that led me to this and i shall try to articulate them as best as i can below.

1.  i have always believed that if you find joy in something, you keep that joy no matter what and make those sacrifices.  it’s what i’ve done for the past six years in order to keep this blog going.  but there was a tipping point for me this year.  when the Nepal earthquakes happened, Utterly Engaged and I tried to do our usual round of fundraising and rallying our community to help others in dire need.  in 2011, when Japan had their deadly earthquake and tsunami, our community came together to raise about $74,000 in two and half weeks from about 1,400 individual donations.  $74,000 in two and half weeks.  this was before Instagram, so we were relying on Twitter and Facebook and word of mouth.  in 2013, when Philippines was rocked with a horrid typhoon, a handful of photographers came together to offer sessions as donations and word of mouth helped us raise about $19,000 in two and half weeks.  this time around for Nepal, we barely reached $7,000.  it was incredibly disheartening for me.  no matter how much we tweeted, posted on FB and Instagram, we seemed to be met with radio silence.  barely anyone shared the post, let alone donated.  first realize, i never EVER expect people to donate.  i understand not everyone is in a financial situation to.  i do appreciate those who donated even just $5.  but it was truly shocking to me to see how hard it was to get people to share our posts AND worst of all when they share a caption on Instagram, people would simply “like” the photo and that was it.  no one paid attention to what was actually being said in the caption.  as frustrating as this was, it made me realize how self absorbed we seemed to have become and i didn’t want to be part of it anymore.  it was disgraceful.  i felt that somewhere along the lines, social media has given everyone the “ok’ to be “all about me”, it has fed egos and made everyone an “expert”. part of the joy of blogging was the fact that i could use this as a platform to do good.  but seeing how this community became harder and harder rally the past two times, i’m sorry…it just sucked out the joy.  which leads me to…

2.  the wedding photographer community.  let me be clear, this blog doesn’t run at all without the wedding photographer community.  i’ve been beyond lucky to grow an audience of solid gold wedding photographers organically.  the support for this blog has been absolutely amazing.  the submissions keep growing and the readership keeps expanding.  every day, i am lucky to discover new talent.  i’m incredibly flattered that so many of you keep spreading the word about this blog.  which is why bowing out from the blog was a hard decision to make. but there was an adverse effect with this growth, at least for me.  it’s two fold.  when i first started this blog, it consisted me of emailing photographers directly to ask their permission to use their images.  this established these beautiful friendships that i cherish so much.  with the growth of the blog and having submissions come in, which i am so grateful for, the double edge sword is that genuine and authentic relationship seems lost.  as much as i appreciate the love and the wanting to be on the blog from so many wedding photographers, i feel guilty that i don’t truly know who these people are behind the lens.  i miss the interaction.  instead of saying “thanks for your submission and files, you’ll be up on this date”, i long for the “hey, let’s google hangout now”.  the other aspect of this adverse effect is that  as a sort of “third party”, i sometimes feel the wedding photographer community doesn’t fully appreciates what they get to do.  there are definitely some that are so happy to capture the best of moments of a couple and you see it through the joy of their work, but there are more than a handful who seem to constantly whine and complain about the smallest things.  the negativity and noise are often so petty, and it doesn’t make me happy to represent the community.  i’m not sure what happened over the past year or so.  i’m sure that because i’m in my little corner of the earth, i’m only exposed to just a tiny population of it.  but still, where’s the heart?  maybe i’m just naive and i say, when you have a job you love, stop complaining so much.  sure, you get your bad days, but focus on what you get to do and why you started it in the first place.  if you still don’t love it, get out…stop dragging everyone else down. which leads me to…

3.  i started to view this blog as a chore.  and that’s not why i have this blog.  this is supposed to be my hobby.  i want to love the things i do and pour my heart into it.  i don’t want to resent this blog.  this blog came into my life at a time when i was bored and wanted to do something fun and different.  i had NO IDEA what path it was about to take me on.  but i am SO incredibly grateful for it.  at my 30th birthday party recently, more than half the people there were wedding photographers or friends i had met through blogging.  i felt so blessed to have these friendships via the blog.  i have thoroughly enjoyed the doors this blog has opened me to.  there’s an entire world out there that the general public isn’t aware of.  but as with any job and hobby, i’ve had to make a lot of sacrifices and my family has probably been hit the hardest.  given that i have a full time day job, when i come home, i’m exhausted.  it’s a struggle to have to answer more emails again when i get home since that’s what i’ve been all day long.  i usually end up doing all my blog work on the weekend- that consists of answering all the emails, downloading all the images for the next week, culling and selecting images, writing up all the posts for the following week and scheduling all of those.  that usually ends up being about 8 hours of weekend day leaving no time to really hang out with family or by myself to just relax.  and this is just the basic responsibilities of being a blogger, let’s not forget about the fact that you have to tweet, instagram, phhhoto, snapchat, facebook, pinterest, and who knows what other thing is next that you have to do to keep on top of the game.  now that i’m 30 and not getting any younger, i want to enjoy myself and savor my time with my family and my quiet time for myself.  i. need. a. break.  selfish move, but hey, i’m fortunate enough to have a day job that i get along with and that i can fall back on.  which leads me to…

4. i could never be a full time blogger.  i’ve realized i’m not a fan of the attention and who are all these strangers?  maybe i’m just getting older..ahaha.  i’ve been at this as a hobby for six years and  i’ve truly valued the genuine and authentic relationships more than anything and above anything else.  i don’t have a lot of followers on my social media feeds, but i notice the more i gain, the more i get anxious about the photographers i featured that day- did they get more click throughs, did they gain more followers, did they get enough likes from the photo i picked on instagram…the thoughts are endless and when i don’t meet expectations, i’m disappointed.  then it’s this domino effect of i’m not doing a good enough job.  no one is listening anymore.  i’ve missed the boat.  all that anxiety is so silly compared to the bigger picture, but it seeped in and that’s when you realize, maybe this blog isn’t your hobby anymore if it’s not making you happy and giving you anxiety.

so…

i hope that this doesn’t make me sound unappreciative and ungrateful for this blog and those that follow it.  because i sincerely do feel honored and flattered that so many of you have sent your work this way to be featured on here.  the amount of squeals of delight when i see certain submissions roll in, the pride i have felt to see photographers grow in their careers, the 2398443982475843998475 images i have looked at of pure, raw, beautiful emotions and love….nothing will ever compare to that.  even to this day, i am still receiving utterly beyond words beautiful work from talent all over the world.  i 100% believe that i’ve had the fortunate experience of featuring THE most talented and world renowned wedding photographers out there.  i also have to say that you have been there for me through the worst of times.  as many of you know, i’ve lost a few dearly loved ones while i’ve had this blog.  the one that blindsided me hit me the hardest and every day i still struggle a little bit.  but there aren’t enough words to describe the outpour of support in the aftermath and still to this day.  thank you from the bottom of my heart to each and every one of you for coming here day in and day out to look at the blog.  i wish i could hug every one of you and throw some confetti your way.

what does this mean for the rest of the year?

i’ll be accepting submissions til they fill up the rest of the year.  i’m already at mid- October.  i am still 100% committed to and dedicated to all posts through the end of the year.  half of me feared to make this announcement now as maybe submissions will stop, but at the same time, i wanted to be as fair as possible to you all.  i still semi want to do a “best of 2015″ collection again, but we’ll see if when i do my call out for it, if we get enough interest.  it would be totally awesome to have that as the last thing on the blog.  that project is something i always treasure doing.

so there you have it.

six years of absolute labor of love poured into this thing called a blog.

i’m obviously still around to hang out with people.  duh.  you might see me pop up on a few other things to help wedding photographers out, including attempting to be a photographer’s assistant at weddings here and there.  so i’m still here, just not ON here.  definitely feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions.

and again,  no amount of words can really truly ever describe the thanks and appreciation i have for all the experiences, friendships, love and support not only for this blog, but for me personally for the past six years.  i hope to continue some of these outside of the blog.  but ultimately understand that this might be the end of the road for others.  thank you for giving me the gift and opportunity to cheer on so much talent and fall in love with wedding photography and storytelling.  it’s been an honor.

i’m leaving you with some of my favorite images that have stood out in my mind and from photographers who have meant the world to me for the past six years.  just a heads up, there’s a LOT of images.  it’s hard to pick from 29743379284756379 plus images that mean so much to me over the past six years so bear with me.

SHODALOVE

ENCARNACION PHOTOGRAPHY

CAROLINE GHETES

ARIEL RENAE

CHAZ CRUZ

NICKEL CITY STUDIOS

ADRIENNE GUNDE

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NICK RADFORD

RYAN FLYNN

NORDICA PHOTOGRAPHY

FORGED IN THE NORTH

TYLER BRANCH

BENJ HAISCH

ASH IMAGERY

TONHYA KAE

AMBER ZBITNOFF

TOMASZ WAGNER

KRISTEN MARIE PARKER

JAY EADS

THE LAST FORTY PERCENT

LOGAN COLE

SCOTTY PERRY

JILL DEVRIES

EP LOVE

NIRAV PATEL

LUIS GODINEZ

A FIST FULL OF BOLTS

JENNY WOHRLE

ATHENA PELTON

ARON GOSS

KALLIMA PHOTOGRAPHY

REDFIELD PHOTOGRAPHY

JILLIAN BOWES

PAT FUREY

JOEL ALLEGRETTO

HEATHER JOWETT

JUNE COCHRAN

JENNIFER MOHER

GOLDEN HOUR STUDIOS

HUGH WHITAKER

CARLY BISH

JAQUILYN SHUMATE

GLASSER IMAGES

FOR THE LOVE OF IT

BRETT & JESSICA

WOODNOTE PHOTOGRAPHY

ALISON VAGNINI

SACHIN KHONA

CATHERINE ABEGG

DYLAN AND SARA

BABB PHOTO

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these are only 50 images from 50 different wedding photographers that have made an impact on my life.  this is only a small handful.  the best part is all of these have become personal friends and i am incredibly blessed and so proud to know each and every one of them.  please know that every single photographer that has sent images in or have reached out in some form or another has made the blog for the better.  again, thank you so much.

p.s. i’m on vacation for the next two weeks so no posts.  follow where i’ll be on instagram and snapchat (confettiwizard).

Jul
12
2015

{EVER OURS AFTER HOURS} MORNINGWILD PHOTOGRAPHY…

#everoursafterhours serves as a learn the “why” behind their work, to get to know photographers and videographers that are the game changers or ones that in their tiny little corner of the earth are just getting it done.  i have always, ALWAYS, prided myself on the that community that i have the fortunate experience of knowing and featuring.  for the past five years, i have surrounded myself with such a beautifully talented community of wedding photographers and videographers.  so i’m just going to build on that this year and give them the spotlight they deserve.  i’ll be highlighting photographers almost every week.  but obviously if i have the time, i’ll be featuring more but it’s all dependent on the photographers who have the time to answer too.  it’ll be up on Sundays and it’ll just be a chance for photographers to kick back after shooting a wedding, grab a coffee, and have a lazy Sunday read.

this week’s is with

MORNINGWILD PHOTOGRAPHY

Megan is the bee knee’s behind MorningWild Photography.  i’ve been fortunate enough to follow her work for a while and then been ever so lucky to have her on here as well.  but the best part is she’s allowed me throw confetti around her like a crazy person.  her work has been blowing my mind.  you’ll see below, but come learn more about Megan.

How did you get your start in wedding photography?

I was at Syracuse University pursuing a career in Photojournalism. I had the hardest time obtaining a summer internship in 2007, but one popped up last minute in Los Angeles working for a wedding photographer. I interviewed and was offered the job. I honestly never wanted to get into weddings but really wanted to live in L.A. Hilariously, in the end, I found out that I really liked weddings and didn’t really like living in L.A.

 After that summer, my friends started hiring me and it organically took off from there. I balanced newspaper/media internships and weddings until I had a job offer on the table and 18 weddings on the books. I decided at that point to just jump in completely and pursue wedding photography full-time. It was terrifying to turn down the job, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. Every once and a while I will still take on a few freelance opportunities for The New York Times, but I really love running a business, telling stories, and creating photographs that will be an integral part of my couples’ heritage. It’s funny how things work out….

What is unique about your style of shooting?

 I’m told from my peers that I’m great at capturing raw emotion and creating photographs with interesting light. I think this stems from my background as a photojournalist where one is required to make something powerful without altering the scene and having to wait for moments to happen naturally. I try my best to let my couples experience their day as organically as possible. I never want to interfere and make fake memories.

Include one of your images that is your most recent favorite and explain why you love it.

 

 This might not be the best image I’ve ever made, but its sentiment hits me hard. Leighann’s father had passed away a few years before their wedding, and his father walked her down the aisle. This 89-year-old grandfather of hers is something special. When I met Leighann + Tom on Skype they were visiting her grandpa in the hospital after he recovered from a quadruple bypass. Who would have thought that six months later he would be well enough to boogie with her on the dance floor. She surprised him with a song just for the two of them, and this was his face when the music came on. He had the biggest smile while swinging his hips. I was laughing and crying at the same time. I’m really close with my grandfather, and we just found out his cancer has spread, making his time on earth probably not much longer. I cherish every photo I have of him, and I’m sure this bride will cherish these as well. Moments like these at weddings make my heart happy.

What do you struggle with the most?

 I struggle the most with balance. I have a difficult time saying “no” and taking on too much. My creativity and health suffer when I’m shooting back-to-back-to-back during peak months, 60-hour weeks, no days off. I need to be better about learning my limitations.

Where do you see wedding photography heading next? Where you would like to see it go?

 I see a trend of couples wanting their engagement + wedding photos to be an experience. More and more are going on adventures to make amazing images happen.

 I would love to see more couples embrace who they truly are and integrate those elements into their day, versus poses and expectations copied from Pinterest. My favorite weddings are those that celebrate the unique qualities of the couple and the couples who are truly present with each other on their day. That brings a raw element and depth, which naturally creates epic photographs. I don’t think honest imagery will ever go out of style :)

If you could send one message to the wedding photography world, what would it be?

Be honest with yourself about the work you want to create. It’s easy to feel like you have to make photos just like everyone else does to be successful. Those that step out of that box are the true leaders in the industry.

What drives you as a person and as a wedding photographer?

 Authenticity. Creativity. Adventure. Love. I’m driven to create something genuine that will be meaningful to my couples and their families for many, many years. I love serving them in that way. I’m truly a maker. God has put a passion in my heart to constantly create, learn, and love people with this gift.

What makes you throw confetti at the end of the day?

 Long walks in nature with my husband and our Samoyed pup, Poa. Traveling. Having deep conversations with great friends. Leaving a wedding feeling like family. Enjoying really, really good food, wine, and coffee. Overall, living intentionally and purposefully with a lot of fun, spontaneous moments.

MorningWild Photography is based in North Carolina, but Megan travels world wide to shoot the storytelling in the most beautiful way.  please go check out more on HER SITE and HER BLOG.

Jul
07
2015

{LOVE} A FIVE YEAR ANNIVERSARY…

shanon and austin have been together for five years…now with four kids in the house and a small business to run, they’ve got their hands full.  taking a time out for just the two of them was definitely earned.  

we found a great little spot off the road on a cool spring day and once we got started, it was pure magic.  the two of them have such a beautiful chemistry and quite frankly are completely infatuated with each other.  it’s splendid to behold.”

as always, totally stoked to have

MADE TO BE MINE

with this love session. check out more of Kristi’s  stellar work over on HER BLOG.

Jun
14
2015

{EVER OURS AFTER HOURS} WOODNOTE PHOTOGRAPHY…

#everoursafterhours serves as a learn the “why” behind their work, to get to know photographers and videographers that are the game changers or ones that in their tiny little corner of the earth are just getting it done.  i have always, ALWAYS, prided myself on the that community that i have the fortunate experience of knowing and featuring.  for the past five years, i have surrounded myself with such a beautifully talented community of wedding photographers and videographers.  so i’m just going to build on that this year and give them the spotlight they deserve.  i’ll be highlighting photographers almost every week.  but obviously if i have the time, i’ll be featuring more but it’s all dependent on the photographers who have the time to answer too.  it’ll be up on Sundays and it’ll just be a chance for photographers to kick back after shooting a wedding, grab a coffee, and have a lazy Sunday read.

this photography team is a power duo.  and they truly are the most genuine and authentic with what they do and what they love.  it shows through their work and everyone who is around them is showered by it.  they don’t just do wedding photography, but fashion and editorial AND own an artisan homegoods shop that helps women in rural India.  i mean what do they NOT do…i suppose hang out with me enough.  anyways, let me introduce you to

WOODNOTE PHOTOGRAPHY

How did you get your start in wedding photography?

Accidentally! We had a travel/personal blog where we shared our photographs, and people started asking if they could hire us to shoot things for them. One day, my friend told me that we were shooting her wedding. There wasn’t really a choice involved. After that wedding, we posted the photos to Facebook and had 8 weddings booked in the coming weeks. Fast forward 5 years and hundreds of weddings, we wouldn’t go back!

What is unique about your style of shooting?

Our style is super personal. We love to get to know our couples before we shoot with them so that they can get used to us + relax before we stick cameras in their faces. We like a balance of moody + colorful, and the biggest factor is mutual trust between us + our couples. Our couples are basically the best, most inspiring humans on earth.

Include one of your images that is your most recent favorite and explain why you love it.

Tee + Jake in Melbourne. This image is the perfect balance of moody + intimate. Beautiful to look at, even if you don’t know the couple, and a true glimpse of who they are at the same time.

What do you struggle with the most? Business wise or shooting wise.

Taxes.  -_-

Where do you see wedding photography heading next? Where would like to see it go?

Continuing down the path of more personalized. More real. More intimate. Less focused on air-brushing and photo shopping, and fore emphasis on authenticity. I’m happy to see it go there, anyway. Maybe I’m trying to will it there.

If you could send one message to the wedding photography world, what would it be? (Basically, your life motto)

Share of yourself, and your dream clients will find you. Be authentic while you’re shooting and your work will be authentic. You get what you give.

What drives you as a person and as a wedding photographer?

Endless love of humans + their stories.

What is it like to work as a team?

It is a dream, really! Jayden has all of the strengths that I only dream of having, and I hope it’s a vice versa scenario. He’s all heart, I’m a lot of head. (That’s what she said.) So I spend a lot of time with the planning/analysis side, and he connects first and worries about details later. I couldn’t ‘team’ with just anyone, but with Jayden, it is right. It hasn’t always been easy, though. For the first 2 years, we nearly killed each other just trying to find that perfect balance of ‘who does what’. If you work with as a couple, take a deep breath + make a list of the strengths that your partner has that you don’t have. Then let them take jobs that relate to those strengths. You’ll enjoy life (and working together) a lot more if you respect the strengths instead of being annoyed at their weaknesses. Real talk.

What makes you confetti throw at the end of the day?

Getting love letters from our clients whose lives have been changed by seeing themselves in our work. It’s the fucking best thing evs.

and there you have it.  i highly encourage you to check out the rest of Jayden and Caroline’s work over on THEIR SITE and THEIR BLOG.  this couple’s passport is full of stamps and they’re ready to go anywhere…which is probably why i hardly see them in LA.  i assure you that you will be missing out if you don’t go check out their work.


Jun
11
2015

{LOVE} AT WILD HORSE WIND FARM…

thrilled to have

ALEXANDRA KNIGHT PHOTOGRAPHY

on here again with this stunning anniversary session.

“I photographed an anniversary shoot for my dear friends Nick & Emma in the rolling high desert hills of Eastern Washington last summer and Emma wore a gorgeous Badgley Mischka gown covered in head to toe rose gold sequins (rented from Rent the Runway!).  She was stunning!  We shot on a wind turbine farm where we didn’t find a single person sharing the range with us, but did wind up shooting right in the middle of a trail that a local herd of cattle evidently uses each day, so they made a few cameos for us.  We had beautiful views of the valley below, and the sky was greyed and made moody by forest fire smoke coming from the north (we had a really bad fire season this past summer).  We shot until the sun went down and enjoyed gorgeous golden hour light on the sage-covered hills, a lot of that light dancing on the sequins on Emma’s gown.  Nick is also a photographer, so we had to tow along one of his vintage Kodak box cameras!  I know that sequins aren’t the same thing as confetti, but at least they’re headed in the right direction!”

 for more Alexandra’s beautiful film work, head on over to HER BLOG.

Jun
05
2015

{CONFETTI THROW FRIDAYS} NO. 67…

i am so very happy to be bringing back CONFETTI THROW FRIDAYS now that i’m a bit more caught up with submissions.  as a reminder,  confetti throw fridays is where after spending my thursday nights scouring through my blog subscriptions and social media feeds, i picked my favorite images from any of the wedding photographers i am following and showcased them each week in the friday post.  it’s a chance to show off the hard work that wedding photographers have been up to.  in all honesty, i see it as a way for wedding photographers to cheer each other on and give high fives to each for the stellar work.  never see it as a competition or a let down if you’re not on here, always see it as motivation and to throw confetti for your peers in this industry.

and so here we go.  remember to click through every link to see more from each of the photographers!

BABB PHOTO

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NIRAV PATEL

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LOUIE ABELLERA

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ANDERSON SHORE

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CARINA SKROBECKI

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REDFIELD PHOTOGRAPHY

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ARIEL RENAE

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NICK RADFORD

again, please go to each link to see each photographer’s post in its entirety.  all of these are absolutely spellbinding in their own way and wedding photography at its best.

this weekend is going to be a bit of a tough one and i’ll write a post about it tomorrow.  thank you ahead of time to all those who have been sending me messages and giving me internet hugs all this week.

May
28
2015

{LOVE} IN PALOS VERDES, CALIFORNIA…

all the above is what i love about wedding photography.  there are so many layers to it.  the above showcases how it isn’t just about the storytelling of the big wedding day, but what essentially is the most important thing, the love between two people.  that’s what is celebrated.

i love that the above captured that.  and the other layer is that the two in FRONT of the lens are also amazing photographers, thus throwing confetti for building community between photographers.  love Amanda and Howard of The Shalom Imaginative.

and i am extremely grateful to

MATT AND TISH

for sending this one over to share.  this is just a tiny glimpse of what this talented duo can do.  i just got lost for a while on their blog, going through pages of their work.  every image had so much heart.  go see for yourself on THEIR BLOG.