a lot can change in one year.

through sweat and tears, i’ve managed to still keep this blog going, 100% due to all these truly talented wedding photographers and friends who constantly send me features.  i’ve also moved into a new full time day job at a new smaller, much smaller, company.  all my days are spent helping find new talent to work at the company and it consists of a lot of emails, scheduling, logistics, phone calls, meetings, etc.  because it is a smaller company, there is no way to hide- any lack of effort on your part, you will be exposed.  and let me tell you guys, i absolutely am in love with that challenge.  i’ve thrown myself into this job the past few months and maybe got slightly exhausted, but the hunger and drive to do really well keeps me going.  for those who are familiar with my blog and me, you know that i live for that stuff.  for the past six years, i’ve somehow managed to sneak this blog in amongst a full-time day job, working front desk at a workout studio, trying to deal with the needs of family and hoping to keep friendships alive- with only a slight, almost noticeable loss of sanity.   this blog has been purely a labor of love.  i’ve never really believed in sponsorships or ads because i know i could never guarantee inquiries or bookings.  therefore, always felt grimy about the idea of moving towards that direction.  i have adored every minute of this and what i have been able to create and showcase here.  it’s been an honor to feature so much talent.


again, a lot can change in one year.

it’s super hard for me to write this so i hope you all understand this was not an easy decision and respect my thoughts. and so here it is…


there were a multitude of factors that led me to this and i shall try to articulate them as best as i can below.

1.  i have always believed that if you find joy in something, you keep that joy no matter what and make those sacrifices.  it’s what i’ve done for the past six years in order to keep this blog going.  but there was a tipping point for me this year.  when the Nepal earthquakes happened, Utterly Engaged and I tried to do our usual round of fundraising and rallying our community to help others in dire need.  in 2011, when Japan had their deadly earthquake and tsunami, our community came together to raise about $74,000 in two and half weeks from about 1,400 individual donations.  $74,000 in two and half weeks.  this was before Instagram, so we were relying on Twitter and Facebook and word of mouth.  in 2013, when Philippines was rocked with a horrid typhoon, a handful of photographers came together to offer sessions as donations and word of mouth helped us raise about $19,000 in two and half weeks.  this time around for Nepal, we barely reached $7,000.  it was incredibly disheartening for me.  no matter how much we tweeted, posted on FB and Instagram, we seemed to be met with radio silence.  barely anyone shared the post, let alone donated.  first realize, i never EVER expect people to donate.  i understand not everyone is in a financial situation to.  i do appreciate those who donated even just $5.  but it was truly shocking to me to see how hard it was to get people to share our posts AND worst of all when they share a caption on Instagram, people would simply “like” the photo and that was it.  no one paid attention to what was actually being said in the caption.  as frustrating as this was, it made me realize how self absorbed we seemed to have become and i didn’t want to be part of it anymore.  it was disgraceful.  i felt that somewhere along the lines, social media has given everyone the “ok’ to be “all about me”, it has fed egos and made everyone an “expert”. part of the joy of blogging was the fact that i could use this as a platform to do good.  but seeing how this community became harder and harder rally the past two times, i’m sorry…it just sucked out the joy.  which leads me to…

2.  the wedding photographer community.  let me be clear, this blog doesn’t run at all without the wedding photographer community.  i’ve been beyond lucky to grow an audience of solid gold wedding photographers organically.  the support for this blog has been absolutely amazing.  the submissions keep growing and the readership keeps expanding.  every day, i am lucky to discover new talent.  i’m incredibly flattered that so many of you keep spreading the word about this blog.  which is why bowing out from the blog was a hard decision to make. but there was an adverse effect with this growth, at least for me.  it’s two fold.  when i first started this blog, it consisted me of emailing photographers directly to ask their permission to use their images.  this established these beautiful friendships that i cherish so much.  with the growth of the blog and having submissions come in, which i am so grateful for, the double edge sword is that genuine and authentic relationship seems lost.  as much as i appreciate the love and the wanting to be on the blog from so many wedding photographers, i feel guilty that i don’t truly know who these people are behind the lens.  i miss the interaction.  instead of saying “thanks for your submission and files, you’ll be up on this date”, i long for the “hey, let’s google hangout now”.  the other aspect of this adverse effect is that  as a sort of “third party”, i sometimes feel the wedding photographer community doesn’t fully appreciates what they get to do.  there are definitely some that are so happy to capture the best of moments of a couple and you see it through the joy of their work, but there are more than a handful who seem to constantly whine and complain about the smallest things.  the negativity and noise are often so petty, and it doesn’t make me happy to represent the community.  i’m not sure what happened over the past year or so.  i’m sure that because i’m in my little corner of the earth, i’m only exposed to just a tiny population of it.  but still, where’s the heart?  maybe i’m just naive and i say, when you have a job you love, stop complaining so much.  sure, you get your bad days, but focus on what you get to do and why you started it in the first place.  if you still don’t love it, get out…stop dragging everyone else down. which leads me to…

3.  i started to view this blog as a chore.  and that’s not why i have this blog.  this is supposed to be my hobby.  i want to love the things i do and pour my heart into it.  i don’t want to resent this blog.  this blog came into my life at a time when i was bored and wanted to do something fun and different.  i had NO IDEA what path it was about to take me on.  but i am SO incredibly grateful for it.  at my 30th birthday party recently, more than half the people there were wedding photographers or friends i had met through blogging.  i felt so blessed to have these friendships via the blog.  i have thoroughly enjoyed the doors this blog has opened me to.  there’s an entire world out there that the general public isn’t aware of.  but as with any job and hobby, i’ve had to make a lot of sacrifices and my family has probably been hit the hardest.  given that i have a full time day job, when i come home, i’m exhausted.  it’s a struggle to have to answer more emails again when i get home since that’s what i’ve been all day long.  i usually end up doing all my blog work on the weekend- that consists of answering all the emails, downloading all the images for the next week, culling and selecting images, writing up all the posts for the following week and scheduling all of those.  that usually ends up being about 8 hours of weekend day leaving no time to really hang out with family or by myself to just relax.  and this is just the basic responsibilities of being a blogger, let’s not forget about the fact that you have to tweet, instagram, phhhoto, snapchat, facebook, pinterest, and who knows what other thing is next that you have to do to keep on top of the game.  now that i’m 30 and not getting any younger, i want to enjoy myself and savor my time with my family and my quiet time for myself.  i. need. a. break.  selfish move, but hey, i’m fortunate enough to have a day job that i get along with and that i can fall back on.  which leads me to…

4. i could never be a full time blogger.  i’ve realized i’m not a fan of the attention and who are all these strangers?  maybe i’m just getting older..ahaha.  i’ve been at this as a hobby for six years and  i’ve truly valued the genuine and authentic relationships more than anything and above anything else.  i don’t have a lot of followers on my social media feeds, but i notice the more i gain, the more i get anxious about the photographers i featured that day- did they get more click throughs, did they gain more followers, did they get enough likes from the photo i picked on instagram…the thoughts are endless and when i don’t meet expectations, i’m disappointed.  then it’s this domino effect of i’m not doing a good enough job.  no one is listening anymore.  i’ve missed the boat.  all that anxiety is so silly compared to the bigger picture, but it seeped in and that’s when you realize, maybe this blog isn’t your hobby anymore if it’s not making you happy and giving you anxiety.


i hope that this doesn’t make me sound unappreciative and ungrateful for this blog and those that follow it.  because i sincerely do feel honored and flattered that so many of you have sent your work this way to be featured on here.  the amount of squeals of delight when i see certain submissions roll in, the pride i have felt to see photographers grow in their careers, the 2398443982475843998475 images i have looked at of pure, raw, beautiful emotions and love….nothing will ever compare to that.  even to this day, i am still receiving utterly beyond words beautiful work from talent all over the world.  i 100% believe that i’ve had the fortunate experience of featuring THE most talented and world renowned wedding photographers out there.  i also have to say that you have been there for me through the worst of times.  as many of you know, i’ve lost a few dearly loved ones while i’ve had this blog.  the one that blindsided me hit me the hardest and every day i still struggle a little bit.  but there aren’t enough words to describe the outpour of support in the aftermath and still to this day.  thank you from the bottom of my heart to each and every one of you for coming here day in and day out to look at the blog.  i wish i could hug every one of you and throw some confetti your way.

what does this mean for the rest of the year?

i’ll be accepting submissions til they fill up the rest of the year.  i’m already at mid- October.  i am still 100% committed to and dedicated to all posts through the end of the year.  half of me feared to make this announcement now as maybe submissions will stop, but at the same time, i wanted to be as fair as possible to you all.  i still semi want to do a “best of 2015″ collection again, but we’ll see if when i do my call out for it, if we get enough interest.  it would be totally awesome to have that as the last thing on the blog.  that project is something i always treasure doing.

so there you have it.

six years of absolute labor of love poured into this thing called a blog.

i’m obviously still around to hang out with people.  duh.  you might see me pop up on a few other things to help wedding photographers out, including attempting to be a photographer’s assistant at weddings here and there.  so i’m still here, just not ON here.  definitely feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions.

and again,  no amount of words can really truly ever describe the thanks and appreciation i have for all the experiences, friendships, love and support not only for this blog, but for me personally for the past six years.  i hope to continue some of these outside of the blog.  but ultimately understand that this might be the end of the road for others.  thank you for giving me the gift and opportunity to cheer on so much talent and fall in love with wedding photography and storytelling.  it’s been an honor.

i’m leaving you with some of my favorite images that have stood out in my mind and from photographers who have meant the world to me for the past six years.  just a heads up, there’s a LOT of images.  it’s hard to pick from 29743379284756379 plus images that mean so much to me over the past six years so bear with me.






















































these are only 50 images from 50 different wedding photographers that have made an impact on my life.  this is only a small handful.  the best part is all of these have become personal friends and i am incredibly blessed and so proud to know each and every one of them.  please know that every single photographer that has sent images in or have reached out in some form or another has made the blog for the better.  again, thank you so much.

p.s. i’m on vacation for the next two weeks so no posts.  follow where i’ll be on instagram and snapchat (confettiwizard).



as a reminder,  confetti throw fridays is where after spending my thursday nights scouring through my blog subscriptions and social media feeds, i picked my favorite images from any of the wedding photographers i am following and showcased them each week in the friday post.  it’s a chance to show off the hard work that wedding photographers have been up to.  in all honesty, i see it as a way for wedding photographers to cheer each other on and give high fives to each for the stellar work.  never see it as a competition or a let down if you’re not on here, always see it as motivation and to throw confetti for your peers in this industry.










(there’s confetti in this one)



(that’s not pixie dust, that’s insects.  pretty sure they made a stunner of a photo though)


and that’s it.  come back Monday for  a pretty important post that you wedding photographers and all loyal readers will need to read.

have a great weekend all!



while this blog focuses mainly on wedding photography and the moments that wedding photographers so beautifully capture over the details.  i just wanted to note that throughout this wedding, there was a lot of the bride’s personal touches and a lot of help from loved ones and friends to make it happen.  many thanks to


 for sending this one in to share.  absolutely love the orchards as a backdrop.

you have to head on over to CHLOE’S BLOG for much more of her stunning work. guaranteed you’ll find yourself going further and further back and getting lost in her beautiful work.



the above is only a tiny look into this beautiful day captured by


there is SO much more from this day that can be seen over HERE, including some more killer portraits.

don’t forget to mosey around JAY & JESS’ BLOG for much of their gorgeous work.  guaranteed you don’t want to miss out on that.



love this stunner of a jewel toned wedding from


also you can’t go wrong with a BHLDN gown.  for more from this wedding, check it out over HERE.

i promise that if you hit KATE’S BLOG button, you’ll also get lost on there for a while with her gorgeous work.



it’s pretty easy to forget how big the world is and how much talent there is out there.  i’m fortunate enough that this blog calls attention to that and i’m grateful that so many people reach out to me to be on here.  one such talent is Greg and Nicole Peterson from


this wedding is only a glimpse of how much talent this team has.  to see how they views each couple and their special day is just something else.  check out more from this wedding over HERE, then most definitely mosey around THEIR BLOG for much more of his work.



#everoursafterhours serves as a learn the “why” behind their work, to get to know photographers and videographers that are the game changers or ones that in their tiny little corner of the earth are just getting it done. i have always, ALWAYS, prided myself on the that community that i have the fortunate experience of knowing and featuring. for the past five years, i have surrounded myself with such a beautifully talented community of wedding photographers and videographers. so i’m just going to build on that this year and give them the spotlight they deserve. i’ll be highlighting photographers almost every week. but obviously if i have the time, i’ll be featuring more but it’s all dependent on the photographers who have the time to answer too. it’ll be up on Sundays and it’ll just be a chance for photographers to kick back after shooting a wedding, grab a coffee, and have a lazy Sunday read.

about time this lady was on here. i’m so lucky to call this one a friend. pretty sure our friendship spans about 4 years? but put us in a room together and singing Disney songs in weird accents start to happen. and you wish you never put us in a room together. anyways, this one oozes talent. her work is absolutely flawless, not just for wedding photography, but her fashion/editorial work is hard to beat. not only does she run her wedding photography business, but she’s got a pretty kickass lifestyle blog, The Top Knot, on the side too. thrilled to be able to have you all learn more about…



How did you get your start in wedding photography?

I went to a college that viewed wedding photography as a joke. They pushed the commercial world on their students and considered wedding photography to be the job you do when the commercial jobs didn’t work out. The fallback. The last resort. The job that old 70-year-old men did. My last quarter of college we were required to get an internship with a professional photographer. The only one that was available for me and worked with my schedule was with…wait for it…a wedding photographer! Great. I had pictured myself working along side a fashion photographer and here I was having to do intern work for someone who my school viewed as a joke. Little did I know at the time, this internship was about to teach me things that I still practice in my own business today. After I graduated, this wedding photographer offered me a full-time job as her post-production manager. I did everything from editing, album designing, printing, archiving, and the list goes on. I knew how to run a wedding photography business before I had ever even dreamed of becoming one myself. I’m so thankful for all that I learned…and I’m also one of the only students from my graduating class still doing photography and being successful at it, so I guess the joke is on them. :)

What is unique about your style of shooting?

 I’m never quite sure if I’m doing something super “unique” or “different” from any other wedding photographers out there, but to me it’s about much more than just being unique. The experience my clients have with me is where I try to put a lot of my focus. If I have that unique connection with my clients and I am able to make them feel comfortable and natural in their skin, then it’s really easy to create awesome imagery that feels REAL. I love getting up close and personal with my clients and that is one consistent request I get from new clients so I guess it’s working. I’ve really been trying to make my work more personal and emotional and it’s a challenge that I’ve been loving.

Include one of your images that is your most recent favorite and explain why you love it.


 Well this question is impossible. I have so many favorite images, it’s really hard to narrow it down to one. I went ahead and chose this image because it’s one of my most recent favorites. I love speaking about feelings that are fresh to my mind and body and this shoot had me all sorts of inspired. This is Emma. We clicked right away and she reminded me so much of myself when I was her age. It made think about how quickly time goes by and how I forever want to embrace my youth while I have it. This image makes me FEEL and that is something I’m constantly chasing…living every day feeling everything that comes my way, no matter how ugly or beautiful is it, I want to feel it all.

What do you struggle with the most? Business or shooting wise.

 Running a business is no joke. I’m constantly learning new things and trying to run my business in a more efficient/organized way and it’s really tough because sometimes that stuff doesn’t come naturally to me. If I’m being honest, the thing I struggle with most at times is self-doubt. I’m constantly dreaming up new concepts, ideas, projects, and I find myself doubting that I can make them a reality. I’ve really been challenging myself to change my frame of thinking because the truth is that we are living in such an exciting time where WE can literally DO anything we want. Leave the corporate world and start your own business? Sure, why not? Quit your daytime job and travel the world? Hell yes, let’s go. Waking up every morning and setting fear and doubt aside isn’t easy, but it’s something I’m getting better at and in return, I’m so much happier and more confident in executing my ideas and dreams.

Where do you see wedding photography heading next? Where you would like to see it go?

 Photography has come so far over the years, it’s insane. I feel very proud to be part of a community that is ever-changing and challenging the public view of what wedding photography can look like. The fact that I get to photograph couples who view my work as art and are genuinely excited to be my little muses for the day…it’s the coolest thing ever. I feel very lucky and privileged to have the job that I do.

Every day there are more people becoming photographers and as easy as it would be to complain about that, I try to view it as a great thing as long as they are getting into for all the right reasons. That isn’t always the case, but I’d love to see the wedding photography industry continue to grow in the way that it already is. I’d love to see more game-changers. I’d love to see some variety. I’d love to see more support for one another.

If you could send one message to the wedding photography world, what would it be?

Clients first. You second.

Create a business that makes you happy and allows you to grow. It’s really easy to get burned out in this industry if you don’t create a business that is healthy for you both mentally and physically. This could mean anything from creating strict working hours for yourself, never booking double-headers, limit the amount of travel weddings you book, don’t book clients who are not a good match for you, give yourself a day off to have a social life, and especially don’t let your personal relationships sit on the back burner while you run yourself into the ground. It’s just not worth it.

What drives you as a person and as a wedding photographer?

 As fluffy as this sounds, life and the unknown are what drive me as a person. I have a lot of moments where I just sit in awe that we get to experience something as beautiful as life. No matter how ugly it can be at times, we are here, and a lot of us are lucky enough to create the lives we want. It’s pretty amazing. The unknown is always that surprise factor that I love about life. It’s scary and exciting all at the same time…one day your life can look one way, and the next day it can be completely different. What drives me as a wedding photographer are just those little moments throughout a wedding day that are so subtle and private, but they hit you way down in your heart. When you are capturing a true, raw, and authentic love in front of your lens…there is nothing else like it. It sometimes feels like an out-of-body experience that we shouldn’t be allowed in on, but we are. It’s amazing.

 What makes you throw confetti at the end of the day?

Just being healthy and alive. Oh, and a good bar of chocolate and cup of tea always makes me want to throw confetti! :)

this is just a tiny glimpse of this girl and her heart. you really ought to check out more on TONHYA’S SITE and HER BLOG. additionally, her LA FEMME FORTE series is coming to Los Angeles in a few week and there’s a few spots left. this isn’t just a boudoir shoot, it’s so much more. it’s about empowering women. find out more over HERE.